Tai Lopez "Book Of The Day" Show

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Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.

I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...

It's life changing for the people inside. 

They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...

You should too.

>> Click here to apply >>

 

For most of us the problem is that we don't really know how old we are.

We think we know.

But we don't...

Because we measure age all wrong...

We count in reverse when we should really be counting forward.

We say, "I am 32..." or "I am 75..."

We mean how many years it's been since we were born.


 

Measure Differently...
 

But what if we measured our age in the opposite direction - from today's date forward to the end of our life?

What if we stopped using the old-fashioned "birthday age?"

Now that is a profound question.

Because after all who is older, an 18 year old kid who only has 5 years left or an 80 year old who will live another 20 years?

To me the 80 year old is way younger.

They have more time left.

Try measuring your age going forward. 

Not counting back the years from your birth.

Those past years are outside of your control. So in a sense they are irrelevant. 

A phantom, a dream...

If you change how old you see yourself, things will change for the better almost overnight.

It will be like Robert Frost's poem:

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— 
I took the one less traveled by, 
And that has made all the difference."


You won't be average anymore.

Your life will take a turn down a better path.

As I work with people in my Private Mentorship Program and my Inner Circle Program I see two things:

1. Young people wasting the prime of their lives because they mistakenly think they have lots of time. 

2. Older people feeling stuck in careers, marriages, and lifestyles they hate out of fear that there isn't enough time to change.

I'm sure you can relate and see yourself in both perspectives.



Now you might be wondering, "Tai, this way of measuring your age is impossible. No one knows when they will die."

And you would be correct.

Except.

 

A New Way To Cope...
 

There is a way to deal with uncertainty. 

Insurance companies have already figured it out.

You have too, you just might not realize it yet.

For example, when do you buy car insurance - before you get your license or after? Answer: The second you buy your car (that's why it's a law here in California).

When do you put on your seat belt - before you start driving or after? Answer: The second you get into your car. 

So you already know the best way to deal with uncertainty.

You have to act IMMEDIATELY!

Since your auto insurance won't pay out if you buy the policy AFTER the crash, you have to assume a crash could happen at any moment and buy the policy immediately, the day you start driving.

Since you can't put your seat belt on after you get in an accident, you have to assume a crash could happen at any moment and act immediately the minute you sit in the seat.

So you have tons of common sense when comes to driving cars...

But when it comes to the big things in life, much more important than driving a car, we throw out all our common sense out the door.

We go back to the old "birthday age" understanding of time.

In today's Book-Of-The-Day, "Theory Of Everything", the famous physicist, Stephen Hawking says the arrow of time moves forward because there are three forms of time:

1. Thermodynamic
2. Cosmological
3. Psychological

Hawking says even if the universe contracts at the end of time we will still not reverse aging.

 

Benjamin Button...


There is no Benjamin Button.

So you and I are left with this:

We are on a race to find the Good Life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness.

You are old in relation to the years you have left.

None of us know that time frame.

So in a sense we are all the same age.

All in this game called human life together.

Steve Jobs said, "I didn't want to be the richest man in the graveyard."

Since this seems a self evident truth you must inject an urgency into your life.

Stop feeling entitled to unlimited time. Don't procrastinate.

But on the flip side, the odds are that you will probably live for a bit longer so you don't have to be hasty.

You can invest and plan for the future.

You don't have to try and get everything today.

You just can't act like you have an eternity to finish.

The balance is the secret.

Buddha called it the "Middle Way" in the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta, his first teaching.

In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle called it the "mean", the average between two extremes:

“... Virtue is a mean [average]... between two vices... the one involving excess, the other deficiency... It is no easy task to be good. For in everything it is no easy task to find the middle... So, too, any one 
can get angry -that is easy- or give or spend money; but to do this to the right person, to the right extent, at the right time, with the right motive, and in the right way, that is not for every one, nor is it easy; 
...goodness is both rare and laudable and noble.”


So take that ancient concept of balance from Buddha and Aristotle and blend it with the modern words of the most winning college basketball coach ever, John Wooden: 

"Be quick, but not in a hurry."

Or like Joel Salatin used to tell me, "Make haste slowly."

This is the mindset that will get you the good life.

Be quick about the things you have control over and be slow and patient over those things outside of your control.

Like the Serenity prayer from Reinhold Niebuhr:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference."


Or like the Mother Goose poem says:

"For every ailment under the sun
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it."


This is the same concept of time, reality, and free will taught by Stephen Covey in the best selling, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People."

His habit #1 involves focusing on changing the things within your power.


 

Come To The Light...


So maybe you need to speed up and snap out of your funk.

Come out of the cave and see the light.

Experience more accurate levels of reality.

Remove ignorance daily and the foggy lenses of life will clear up
into a new, more enlightened understanding of life, aging, and time.

Or maybe you need to realize you aren't too old. You can still make up for time lost by carefully and methodically planning. Not just hastily reacting out of fear.

Find your weak point.

It's either being too hasty or too slow.

Focus on your real age. Not your birthday age.

Your real age is unknown. 

The great explorer, Thor Heyderdahl, said it so well in the first chapter of Kon-Tiki:

“SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IN FATE, OTHERS DON’T. I DO, and I don’t. It may seem at times as if invisible fingers move us about like puppets on strings. But for sure, we are not born to be dragged along. We can grab the strings ourselves and adjust our course at every crossroad, or take off at any little trail into the unknown.”

Don't be dragged along in.

Grab your life by the strings.

Because once you do (and I'm counting on you too do this), it will be a good life for you...


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Allan Nation, one of my first mentors says, "One thing I have learned is that most people only take advice that agrees with what they have already decided to do."

And that in a nutshell is the root of half of all our life's regrets.

So let's continue yesterday's conversation about how to avoid making big mistakes.

In today's book-of-the-day,"Influence", Cialdini talks about the certainty bias. 

Cialdini says, "There is no question about it. The drive to be (and look) consistent constitutes a highly potent weapon of social influence, often causing us to act in ways that are clearly contrary to our own best interests.”



>>Click here to read yesterday's article to catch up


He is talking about our tendency to not change our mind.

Mental "inertia..."

 

Confusing Me With Facts...


Like the saying goes, "Don't bother me with the facts, I've already made up my mind."

Yesterday you read about how to make war with a multitude of counselors and assemble your cabinet of advisors.

That is the start. 

The next issue is this 'bug' in our brain that Cialdini's research discovered. 

We make mistakes because we want security.

We want certainty.

We don't want to experiment and flexible and patient and wait until the right path appears over time.

Like a little kid throwing tantrums we want answers now.

The good news is that can all stop today. Big regrets can be a thing of the past.

Your new life can be full of health, wealth, love and happiness.


 

Mad Scientist...


Here are the other 2 tricks to cutting your mistakes and finding the good life:

#2. Bring out your inner mad scientist

Humans are creatures of extremes.

I don't know where this comes from. My guess is maybe from religion. 

People are either too afraid to make mistakes.

Or so certain of themselves that they never try anything new.

Or they have no backbone and bounce around in life hoping that their life will magically improve.

Both of those extremes are the way to lose big time.

The better path, I call "bringing out your inner mad scientist."

Here is what I mean.

A good scientist like Thomas Edison did a ton of little experiments that failed.

Edison says, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

Remember this is coming from a man who held 1093 patents!

Edison invented the light bulb, the movie camera, sound recording equipment, basically all the things that allow us to be able to watch TV, movies, and listen to music.

(You can hear Edison talking and creating the first recording ever made by humans at this link.)

Edison used to say, "I make more mistakes than anyone else I know, 
and sooner or later, I patent most of them."


He was laughing all the way to the bank. 

His little experimental mistakes made him one of the most famous and respected people in the world.

And one of the wealthiest. 

He started GE - General Electric Co. GE is the only company listed in the Dow Jones Industrial Index today that was also included in the original index in 1896. 

GE went on to be the biggest company in the late 1990's. 

At Edison's death in 1931 he left a $12 million estate, big enough to have put him on The FORBES 400 list, had it then existed.

He was basically a billionaire from this mindset of being a mad scientist and making a ton of little mistakes.

Now you might be thinking, "Tai, I thought you said the secret is not making mistakes."

Well yes and no - the devil is in the details.

Edison wasn't one extreme or another. He was not afraid to have little experimental failures.

But he also wasn't so stubborn that he kept trying one experiment longer than it needed to go.

He tested quickly, go the results, then moved on to the next iteration.

This should be the new pattern for your life.

Copy Thomas Edison's pattern.


 

Fail Fast...


Like they say in Silicon Valley, "Fail Fast."

As I said yesterday, you want to avoid BIG mistakes by filling up your brain with the thoughts of the wisest people in the world. Using their experience to be your board of advisors.

But then you will have to go out and take action.

Since you can't copy your mentors exactly you will inevitably make many little mistakes.

Little mistakes are fine. In fact they are helpful.

They key is that you have to "Read the obvious signs" and move on quickly once it's apparent that what you are doing is not working.

In my inner circle private training program on financial freedom and building a million dollar business I teach the 7 step process.


 

Inner Circle Program


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If you want to find the good life and take your financial life from scarcity to financial independence, prosperity, and wealth, send an email to tai@tailopez.com and I will send you over some details.

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So let me lay out the 7 step process:

1. Ask a Question - what are you trying to fix in your life?
2. Do Background Research - what have other smart people done to fix it (your cabinet)...
3. Construct a Hypothesis - what experiment are you going to try?
4. Test Your Hypothesis by Doing an Experiment - put the test into action.
5. Analyze Your Data and Draw a Conclusion - Read the obvious signs...
6. Communicate Your Results To Other Smart People - bounce your conclusion off a 'multitude of counselors."
7. Adjust Based On What You Learned & Start Over - tweak your hypothesis and start back on step 3.

Everyone is good at #3.

All my poor friends have a million opinions on everything.

They are happy to babble away about the answers to politics, religion, and the hard questions of life.

What is rare is a mindset that doesn't jump to conclusions.

Because for most people, #7 - making the adjustments and starting over - is the hardest.

Most people just test once and then never make adjustments again.

If you have been guilty of that, I know I have, then cut that mindset out of your life today.

It will make all the difference.

Like I said in my TED talk. Everyone wants to be a millionaire, but not everybody wants to do the things it takes to become one. 

It starts in the mind. 


 

The Gambler...


You have to know how to set up your life to be a series of little experiments and mistakes to avoid the big nightmare mistakes.

Like Kenny Rogers sings in the Gambler

"Son, I've made a life Out of readin' people's faces
Knowin' what the cards were
By the way they held their eyes
So if you don't mind me sayin'
I can see you're out of aces
For a taste of your whiskey I'll give you some advice

He said, 'If you're gonna play the game, boy
You gotta learn to play it right
You've got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run'.
"

A wise song.

It's a little like dating.

One of my buddies never goes out on dates but then always complains about feeling lonely.

My other buddy is the opposite. He jumps into a relationship with the first girl he meets.

But instead of either of those 2 extremes, my smartest friend goes on a handful of first dates kind of like a mad scientist.

He goes through the 7 steps.

He asks himself what kind of girl he wants to date. When he first is introduced to a girl he does a little research before agreeing to go out.

Then he gives it a shot. And he observes the date.

He maybe goes out one or two times to confirm his initial conclusion.

He asks a few wise people about what he observed. 

And if it's not a match he makes the adjustment and starts over dating someone else until he finds the right match.

This is the pattern of success not just in love and dating, but also the best way for dieting, exercising, building a million dollar business, or finding happiness.

Test fast, fail fast, move on fast. 

Until you are sure you are on the right path never get stuck on one thing so long that it goes from a minor experimental failure to a massive life mistake.

Think about every big mistake you have ever made.

Maybe a failed marriage, friendship, or a failed business.

I bet you either jumped into it too fast without testing it. 

Or you just got stuck in something by ignoring the initial obvious red flags. You just were hoping and praying that some magical power would reach down and fix everything. 

Today that all stops. All you have to do is become a mad scientist who embraces a little temporary uncertainty until the clear answers appear.

Be patient. 

This method works.

 

Try, Try Again...


Try being a Vegan. 

Try being a liberal. 

Try being a conservative.

Try being a Buddhist.

Try being an Atheist.

Try the Paleo diet.

Try a different way to advertise your business.

Or maybe it's time to try a new career. 

Try investing in real estate.

Experiment your way to the top.

Don't get attached the conclusion.

Cope with a little uncertainty until the answer is clear.

As Gary Keller says, "Embrace the chaos."

It works. 

You will see.

Now about the last tip:

#3. The answers are not within.

This is one of my most controversial topics.


In conclusion, remember that if you can use these 3 tips and eliminate the major mistakes from your life you will literally save decades of time and end up with an extra million dollars or more in your pocket.

Don't get paralyzed by the fear of failure.

But don't get stuck too long and turn a little failed experiment into a massive mistake.

Make your life one big experiment.

Go do it and fill me in on how it works!


Also, I just recorded a new show episode that deals with all the in-depth aspects of how to make war with a multitude of counselors and stop making painful mistakes.

 

Also be sure to send an email to tai@tailopez.com if you want to learn more about my "Inner Circle" private program.

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What you really want to do is never make any big mistakes.

Little experimental tests that fail? Yes, those can actually be helpful.

But avoid catastrophic mistakes...

Like the billionaire Warren Buffett says, "An investor needs to do very few things right as long as he or she avoids big mistakes."

That is true about all areas of the good life: health, wealth, love, and happiness.


 

Getting The Lost Years Back


Imagine if you could have back the years you wasted on a bad marriage or dating the wrong person. Or recover the years of your life you lost to being overweight and unhealthy. 

Or get back the money you lost on bad investments or the pursuit of the wrong career.

Or the happiness lost spending time around people who ended up betraying you in the end.

The greatest wish of every human is to be able to have their wasted years back.

But time moves forward. 

I just finished "Theory of Everything" by the great Stephen Hawking.

He says he was wrong.

He used to think that at the end of the universe, about ten thousand million years from now, time would reverse, the universe would contract and Benjamin Button would come true. 

You would be old before you were young. You would age in reverse.

But he says he was wrong. Hawking says there are three forms of time: thermodynamic, cosmological, and psychological.

And he says unfortunately for us, all three are moving forward, never backwards.

On Essay Chapter 6, he states, "Disorder increases with time because we measure time in the direction in which disorder increases. You can't have a safer bet than that."

Haha, that is a physicists attempt at humor. 

So you and I are left with no way to undo or redo our mistakes. 

So cut your big mistakes to the absolute minimum because mistakes bring regret. 

And your happiness is lost from too much regret.

Some people try to avoid the pain of regret by becoming delusional and saying, "I don't regret anything."

Well the person with no regrets is a moron.

Regrets are tools of your brain and Mother Nature to keep you from putting your hand back on the stove and getting burned again.

Regret is like a nerve in your brain. 

When I was 6 years old I bumped my leg on a chair. I asked my scientist grandfather, "Why did that hurt."

He said because of nerves. 

I said why don't we invent a way to turn off our nerves so we won't have to feel pain anymore. 

He said, "No Tai, that's what happens with leprosy. When you lose your nerves you will eventually lose your life because you will keep bumping into things and getting infections."

Same with the "regret" nerve of the brain.

My friend Dr. David Buss, the famous evolutionary psychologist, did fascinating research on regret and his team concluded, "Regret serves as motivation to achieve better outcomes going forward. Emotions in general have a purpose — if you have... regret, that’s going to change future behavior.” 

So the question is, "If we can't avoid regret, and too much regret destroys happiness, then what are we supposed to do?"

The answer is simple.

Eliminate the behavior that causes the regret.

Nip it in the bud.

Stop making big mistakes.


Joel Salatin Lessons

 

When I was 19 years old and just graduated from high school, I went to do an apprenticeship program on Joel Salatin's famous Polyface Farm.

During the first week, I was down eating with the family and Joel looked at me and said, "Tai, I only have one rule. You are not allowed to make any mistakes."

I remember thinking that was the craziest thing I had ever heard. 

I only realized years later that he was setting a new bar for my life.

We live up to what we expect of ourselves.

The first week I went with Joel to move the cows from one pasture to another. He had asked me to bring some electric fence equipment with me.

We walked one mile to the back field where the cows were.

He then asked, "Tai where is the electric fence insulator."

I said, "Oops I forgot it."

He said, "Tai I told you that you are not allowed to make mistakes. If you don't have it in your head you have to have it in your heel."

And he made me walk back to the barn and get it and back. Two extra miles.

I got his point. 

The next day I got in my old blue Pontiac Grand Am and drove to a store in the little town of Staunton, Virginia and bought a whole bunch of notepads and always kept one in my back pocket.

Then whenever Joel told me what to do I wrote it down.

My mistake rate dropped by 90% just from the no mistakes mindset Joel instilled.

[Here is a pic of me and Joel grabbing dinner on his most recent
trip to Hollywood...]


Joel was right.

That was the beginning of my life long interest in learning how to avoid mistakes.

Over the years I began to travel the world trying to accumulate more ways I could avoid mistakes.

Many wise mentors passed on their tips.

Unfortunately I have not always put into practice what I learned and have made plenty of mistakes.

Too many for sure.

Looking back I wonder why no one told me about this mistake avoidance mentality until Joel did after high school. 

Surely this is something that should be taught every year in school?

I realize it's because society has been lying to us by saying, "You only learn through mistakes."

That's a half-truth. 

In the powerful book, "A Few Lessons For Investors and Managers"Peter Bevelin quotes Warren Buffett: "We only learn through mistakes but it's a hell of a lot easier to learn through OTHER peoples mistakes."



 

The Jigsaw Puzzle
 

Stephen Hawking agrees.

Hawking says according to his research, disorder is almost infinite and explains, "Suppose the pieces of the jigsaw start off in the ordered arrangement in which they form a picture. If you shake the box, the pieces will take up another arrangement. This will probably be a disordered arrangement in which the pieces don’t form a proper picture, simply because there are so many more disordered arrangements.”

There are basically a billion, trillion ways to do things
wrong and only a few ways to do them correctly.

That's the scary part about life.

That's why the Dutch say, "Too soon old, too late smart."

If you are not careful the forces of aging, time, and other humans competing against you will shake up the 'jigsaw' pieces of your life and leave things all disordered.

Look around you. That's the life of most people. Full of failure,
regret, and unhappiness. 

You don't want to be 'most' people. You want to rise above the average, mundane existence.

So remember, if you are not careful, you will run out of years of your life trying to run through all the possible combinations of ways you could mess up your life before you get to the right way. 

You want to learn by some trial and error. But mostly by the trial and 
errors of others who have gone before you and done all the hard work.

 

The Three Tools


So let me share 3 things I think will keep you from losing months, years, even decades of your life to mistakes and regret:

1. When It Comes To Big Decisions, Assemble Your Cabinet. 

The wise proverb thousands of years ago said, "Make war with a multitude of counselors."

The President of the United States doesn't make major decisions without consulting his cabinet. The Secretary of State, Defense, Transportation, Labor, Energy, etc.

And remember these are not some random people off the street. These are the smartest, most experienced people in their field.

You must do the same.

Don't just ask your friends. 

Ask experts.

So the next time you have to make a big decision on how to lose weight, or make more money, or who to date, or how to find
happiness, stop for a second.

Go into a dark room.

Imagine the 10 smartest people in history, both living and dead, are sitting around you and you are asking their opinion.

What would they say?

You should be hearing the "whispers of the wisest" in your ears.

For me it's usually a bunch of quotes that I have read or memorized in the past.

Maybe a poem. 

Or a page of a book I recall.

Or a memory of being in person with someone smart.

Or a speech at a conference.

Or reviewing the notes from a phone call or an interview I did.

If you practice this mental exercise long enough it will become second nature. 

I was reading "Beyond Religion" by the Dalai Lama.

In the last chapter he talked about learning how to focus your mind.

He says there are three levels of focus and understanding.

He says when people learn they, “...first learn about it by listening to someone talk about this issue or by reading about it. But unless they deeply reflect upon what they hear or read, their understanding remains superficial...

However, as they then reflect more deeply upon its meaning, applying analysis as well as dwelling mindfully upon the conclusion they reach, a deep sense of conviction arises of the truth of the fact. This is thesecond level in the process of understanding. 

Finally
, as they continue to cultivate deep familiarity with the fact, their insight into it becomes internalized, making it almost part of their own nature. They have then reached the third level of understanding, which is characterized in the classical texts as experiential, spontaneous, and effortless
.”

You will need to practice this mental tool to get to level three, effortless understanding.

So imagine you are focused and listening to the voices of a broad
array of ten of the greatest people in your mental advice 'cabinet':
  
Mother Theresa, Bill Gates, Conrad Hilton, Sam Walton, Martin Luther King Jr., Einstein, Aristotle, Shakespeare, Descartes, and Bach.

What would be their advice for your life?

If you can hear the answers in your head and have the discipline to follow them, the mistakes you make will drop massively.

And whatever you do, do NOT ignore their voices in your head.

The absolute worst mistakes of my life were when I knew what smart
people would advise me and I blatantly ignored them. 

That's just screaming for Mother Nature to teach you a lesson.

And she is a cruel teacher. Ask the Neanderthals and the dinosaurs she made extinct.

Now listening presupposes that you know what these great people believed about life.

Which brings me to why I read so much.

Since many of these people are dead, the only way you will get their answers in your head is to read about their words in books.

This lines up with what Charlie Munger says, "I believe in the discipline of mastering the best that other people have ever figured out. I don't believe in just sitting down and trying to dream it all up yourself. 
Nobody's that smart."


Be humble enough to realize that nobody is smart enough to continually make good decisions without the input of the world's greatest minds. 

Find in-person mentors and read a book at least every 3 days. Then build to one book a day.

You might think that sounds hard. It's not really.

I have a hand selected group of people I am mentoring in my "Inner Circle" 18 month program who are already mastering this.



 

The "Inner Circle" Program

 

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By the way, if you are interested in being in my private inner circle program, I am opening up a few spots as some people are graduating.

If you want to find the good life and take your financial life from scarcity to financial independence, prosperity, and wealth, reply to this email and I will send you over some details.

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One of the people in the program, James, is now reading a book every day.

I asked him if it accelerating his knowledge of business and making money was hard.

He was like, "No, and I have no idea why it took me so long."

Peter Drucker in "Managing Oneself" say's most of us say we can't do something because of "disabling ignorance" of how easy it would actually be to do it.   

[Here I am reading Drucker by my pool with some beet juice, yuck Haha]

I am running out of time now so the other 2 tips will be continuedtomorrow... Stay tuned!

Also, I just recorded a new show that deals with all the in-depth aspects of how to make war with a multitude of counselors and stop 
making painful mistakes.

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There is one thing sure to kill your hopes and dreams.

It's the "mismatch."

And there is one thing sure to bring you the "good life: Health, Wealth, Love, Happiness."

It's avoiding the "mismatch."

What do I mean by this concept of the mismatch?

I was reading for today's Book-Of-The-Day, Daniel Lieberman's "The Story Of The Human Body."

The book covers much of this mismatch and explains how the hardwiring of your brain is adapted to be really good at living in a small village of about 150 people. 

A village where you go to bed around 730 pm, sleep 8 hours, 
eat tons of vegetables and a little meat, and where you fall in love and 
have kids with an old friend you have known since childhood.

In that village you have 2 or 3 career choices but not more than that. It's a village where you are encouraged to save and not spend everything you earn.

But guess what? 

That world's long gone.

The world that the hard wiring of you brain works best with has been replaced with a modern, crazy world. 

I live in Hollywood. I'm looking out my window right now at 13,000,000 people.

That's a lot more than the 150 that Robin Dunbar, the Oxford anthropologist, said is the optimal number for my brain.

I see the billboards selling me things I probably don't need. My brain is designed to trust people. These advertisements are trying to take advantage of that trust. 

My house has lights that let me stay up all night and not get enough sleep. I would feel a hell of a lot better if I went to bed like the Amish do, when the sun sets...

I have the option to pursue 1000 career choices and invest money into 10,000 different stocks. My brain isn't good at weeding out so many options. So I am left thinking that maybe I am missing out on some
big business opportunity.

I can press one button on my phone and have Chinese, pizza, or fast food delivered in 30 minutes. My body is not designed to always have that many calories on demand.

Like the Nobel Prize winner Christian Lous Lange said, "Technology is a useful servant but a dangerous master."

The modern world is a blitz of options.

You have been taught that having all these options are the final culmination of man conquering nature using technology.

Unfortunately almost all of those options are the "mismatch."

Joel Salatin once told me, "Tai humans can now create technology faster than they can anticipate the consequences of using the technology."

For example, last year the modern world's agricultural technology produced about 1300 million metric tons of sugar!

That's enough to make half the world fat and diabetic.

I was on a plane to Sweden and I bought a Sprite (it helps with my motion sickness). I read the label. There was like 40 grams of sugar. That's double of what I should have in a whole day!

We humans have gotten really good at making technology that tempts us into doing the wrong thing.

Psychology today wrote out a top 10 countdown list of all the evolutionary mismatches we face each day:

10. You are surrounded in your day-to-day life by a higher proportion of strangers than would ever have been true of our pre-agrarian hominid ancestors.

9. You run into a higher total number of people each day than our pre-agrarian hominid ancestors ever would have.

8. You have the option of spending 90 percent of your waking hours sitting at a deskand you often exercise this option.

7. Your extended family includes people dispersed across hundreds or thousands of miles (think New York and Florida).

6. You have been exposed to more images of violence than ever would have been possible for pre-agrarian hominids.

5. You were likely educated in an age-stratified systemspending each of several years in a group comprised of about 25 others who matched you in agebeing taught in a classroom environment by a few specially designated “teachers.” You likely spent a lot of time sitting behind desks in the process.

4. You are exposed regularly to politics at a global scaleoften discussing or being involved in issues that potentially pertain to thousands, millions, or even billions of other humans.

3. You were raised in some variant of a nuclear familywith less assistance from aunts, uncles, older cousins, and grandparents, than would have been typical of our nomadic ancestors.

2. You spend a great deal of time interacting with “screens” and “devices”having the evolutionarily unprecedented possibility of almost never having to be bored at all.

1. You can eat an entire diet of processed foodsand you live in a world in which processed foods are cheaper and more accessible than natural foods.

You and I have been tricked by the mismatch of the mind.

I was talking to Jonathan Haidt, the famous NYU professor and researcher on human happiness last week.

He says we have to all get on the right "path."

Haidt means we have to be part of a system. We can not use willpower to become happy.

We have to get in the right environment and then over time happiness and fulfillment will hit us.

The first way to start down this path is to remove all "learned helplessness." This is a psychological concept pioneered by Martin Seligman.

Once a monkey is put in a zoo it gets depressed because it feels helpless to hunt for its own food and control its own destiny.

Even when you take the monkey out of the cage and return it to the jungle it usually will still act helpless and just sit and starve to death. 

It doesn't realize that it's no longer helpless now that it's out of the zoo cage.

Same with you and I.

The modern world and it's many choices is a like a cage. 

If you are not careful it will trap you and bounce you around from one thing to another. Most of which are not in your best interests. 

The good news is that we can live in a world that, for all it's bad, also has tremendous good.

We have the option to cut the sugar, to sleep more, to find true love,
and to find one career and stick with it for decades (which by the way,
is by far the best way to make a lot of money).

Now this is just scratching the surface. 

This issue of evolutionary mismatch is so profound and has so much potential to revolutionize every area of your life from your health to your bank account that I recorded a whole show about it.

Direct download: auf_avoid_the_dream_killing_mismatch_1.mp3
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Become an expert time manager and learn more advanced techniques like this on the millionaire mentor academy.

 

Direct download: AUF_how_to_not_waste_time.mp3
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Learn how to obtain more scarce resources.

Wealth flows into the hands that deserve it.

You have to deserve cash to get it.

Learn more about getting scarce resources on my millionaire mentor academy

 

 

Direct download: AUF_scarce_resources.mp3
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Learn the Chameleon principle to master your social life.

Also find out how to be able to persuade and talk to people with the P.A.S.E. system. 

Do not be fooled. 

The good life is not complete without a proper social life. 

No person is an island, you need other people to have a complete life.

Master your social game in the millionaire mentor academy.

Direct download: AUF_Be_A_Social_Chameleon.mp3
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Find out Michael Jordan's secrets to greatness in this interview I did with Roland Lazenby, author of Michael Jordan: The Life.

 

Direct download: MAUF_edited.mp3
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